When It's Time to Leave Your Job


I'm Asian. I'm a woman. I'm young and have since shifted from pursuing a career in entertainment to working at major software companies. So, I felt like either a) I've always had everything to prove and b) I needed to work harder than everybody else.

I did recognize for a long time that there's always someone who can walk in the room with more experience than me, a skin color that someone might prefer more, a man someone might respect more. But if I continued to work diligently and proactively - no matter what the odds were - I will eventually come out on top. 

This time, last year, I felt complacent...like I wasn't doing enough. I had great co-workers and had finally built a solid pipeline of clients, but I felt stagnant as far as learning goes and that left me feeling mediocre. The whole idea of me wanting more than my 9 to 5 is not wanting more money but my insatiable appetite to be challenged. I thought to myself, "I'm making a decent living, I'm traveling, I'm treating my boyfriend out to lavish meals and I feel so good physically but what else?"

I felt stuck. Confused. Borderline frustrated.

And then I read somewhere on Forbes that if you feel stuck already, you need to start moving and if you needed a sign to move...this is it. Mentally, physically and for a lot of people, spiritually get moving. Trust and believe that the answer will not come to you magically in your stillness and complacency. While I'm extremely great at having a poker face on, the truth is I never know exactly what my next move is going to be and that scares the crap out of me. 

When I was in college, I zeroed in on getting the best internships in Hollywood and I did that. The issue had was that I haven't gotten the chance to narrow down my next goal. And then I asked myself a question and I'm going to ask you the same thing: In your perfect world, what do you love to do and what would you like to be a part of?

I contemplated thoughtfully for a long time on this question and wrote down 3 simple things. 

  • I like storytelling 
  • I love to listen 
  • I like to help people grow 

That same conversation I had with myself once before led me to start my wedding business. Now that I'm feeling stuck again, I had to go back and remind myself of the things that truly matter to me, which was relationship building, communicating and work with people who value my ideas and creativity. 

If your passion is in entrepreneurship and your cubicle no longer felt like the place to do it then start strategizing a new business venture and network. If the excitement in your role begins to fade, start creating a path where you no longer have to dread going to work. The beauty of living in a time like this and living in America is that you can always use the knowledge you've gained to explore other opportunities. 

I hope you're consumed by this new passion. I hope it brings a light back into your life. I hope that ceiling you once felt no longer exist because you get to call the shots now. I'm not telling you to quit your job and throw everything away since that's just not realistic but if you need to take some time off to reevaluate what you want to do and where you need to be...then do it.

I'll fill you in on the next part of my journey once I'm on the other side of this pothole. Talk to you soon. 

If you sit and do nothing, you will get nothing, you will see nothing and you will learn nothing.
— Grimes





Paying Off My College Student Loans

When I landed my first job at a technology company over a year and a half ago, it was the role that got my foot into the world of corporate. All at once, I finally had full coverage health benefits, stock options and a steady income well above minimum wage. 

Before the offer came, I had gotten used to hustling, making job hunting my full-time job and supporting myself by working odd roles like giving out free samples at Costco and being an executive assistant to an ex-attorney and a Youtube star.

I would take on any temporary jobs in order to pay off my student loans and much of my savings went to either 1) rave events (poor investments, by the way) 2) my $30,000 loans at Chapman University (P.S. I had a full ride academic scholarship to USC so I had no debt there). 

Right after graduation, high paying jobs were difficult to come by, and I was incredibly wary about my future. The first valid step I had to take was deciding to move back to my parents' house in Orange County in order to lower the cost of living expenses and food. I also adapted to a minimal style of living by not shopping for things I didn't need while asking my parents to help me pay off all of my high-interest loans first (I paid them back later on).

I remember thinking, "Could this be my life? Is this my trajectory?" The thought of busting my ass off for a college degree from a prominent institution to now grinding it out for the next 5 years and still be struggling financially scared me.

Then, when my grandmother passed away, I had a constant voice in my head that told me I had to start my own side business and that was the birth of my wedding and events hustle. Today, I am able to contribute 21% of my paycheck to my retirement investments, another 40% of my personal savings/stocks, etc. and leaving me enough money to live comfortably.

One of my greatest achievements is now being able to live debt-free. At the end of the day, it was about the kind of life I wanted to build. At the time, I valued financial freedom over an extravagant lifestyle so I had to write down all of my spendings down to very the last penny. Whether you are earning a six-figure salary or entry-level income right now, it really comes down to saving and investing that money appropriately. 

Until next time, 

Fight On! 


3 Things to Know About a Career in Sales

Early in my career, as an intern for two major entertainment companies in Hollywood, I had a front-row seat watching and reporting on CMOs and television personalities as they build their brands and managed the companies' public characters. Image is everything. And it still is but it's not the only thing. 

A little over a year ago, I accepted an offer from a technology software company to join their elite sales department. Like before, I quickly learned how a company's financial success can be heavily affected by their public reputation, culture, and lack thereof. 

Here are a few things I've learned while being surrounded by extremely successful salespeople:

  1. You have to want to succeed. It does you and your company no good if you can’t picture yourself struggling through slow periods and withstanding hundreds of rejections.
  2. You need to have accountability. You are responsible for yourself and your income as well as treating your clients properly. It’s important to be transparent about your product and services and do NOT overpromise and underdeliver. It will come back to bite you.
  3. You genuinely enjoy helping people. This includes being engaged with your prospect, talking to them, listening to their needs, and more importantly, empathize with them. When starting a business relationship with any client, I listen first then devise a strategy uniquely for them. Every business owner is different. I treat them as such. 

Through those previous work/internship experiences, it became clear to me that when your company aligns with clients' businesses and values, the acquisition is more seamless. But it's not always about the client or the shareholders. It is equally important to think about how companies' decisions and its impact on all stakeholders - employees to community members alike.  

And of course, I'd be lying to you if I said sales is easy. It's not. Instead of being daunted by the rejections, I saw every pitch, every "Nos" as an opportunity for me to sharpen my skills and overtime, deliver a higher return.